Last weekend, I feel very blessed to witness a wedding of my friend and fellow colleague. Aside from the breath-taking sight and wonderful ambiance, the ceremony celebrated by Pastor Jo Alfafara was so beautiful that it made me cry. It was very frank and based on his 30 years of marriage. It is a beautiful reminder of the vow that I took and a good reflection of the marriage I live.

My memorable take-aways:

• The Scripture said they were naked and unashamed. Naked is by being transparent. A seed of secret is where it all starts until it grows to become a tree that separates the two. Be naked.
• At the end of the day, learn to forgive. Don't learn to fight better. Learn to forgive.
• When husbands and wives fight, they forget to fight honorably. Honor. That means to say, don't slap. Don't hit. Don't bring up the past. Don't compare your spouse to somebody else. It's not honorable. Don't call bad names because even when you reconcile, the bad names stay. 
• Learn to honor one another with words. It's okay to say, "please, thank you, good morning, good night". You loose nothing by doing it. A lighted candle that lights another candle looses none of its light. Lift up someone. Lift up your spouse.
• Learn to speak life to one another. Admire. Praise. Say something nice. 
• Give a gift. It doesn't have to be expensive. Don't wait for birthdays or anniversaries. Sometimes the least expensive gift has the greatest thoughts.
• Give her time. You're never late for business meetings. Don't be late with her. She's the most important thing. Never be late to somebody who's special.
• Don't grow apart. Grow together. The secret is to love and honor the Lord and each other.
• Be the model marriage in the modern world. When you're home guests finally drive home, let the conversation in the car be not about how beautiful your house is or how wonderful the furnitures are BUT be amazed and wished they have the same marriage as yours.